'The Secret' Test / Changing my Thinking

Like anybody else in this world, I’ve had terrible things happen to me throughout my lifetime.

One tragedy would happen, followed by another, and it was almost as if as soon as I found it in myself to stand up, fight back and move on, something else would happen to knock the life out of me once again.

Somewhere along the way, however, something inside me changed.

It’s like I started propping myself up slightly instead of standing up completely; holding up defense instead of fighting back; and dwelling on all the bad over and over again, rather than move on.

I started allowing the tragedies of my life to take over everything, even and especially my mind, and in doing so, good occurrences became all the more rare.

A few years back, a friend of mine showed me a DVD called ‘The Secret’. It’s very popular, so I am sure that many of you have heard of it, and perhaps have even seen it yourselves.

I think that I might have been too young and naïve to actually process what was being said, so as soon as the DVD finished, I carried on with my life without giving it another thought.

However, about a year later, I came across the book, also titled ‘The Secret’, and decided to read it.

I decided to test it, but it didn’t last long before I fell back into the habit of sinking into the negativity of the situations life presented to me.

Along the way, I always thought back on what I had read, though, until one day not too long ago when a friend of mine and I were in a video hire store, and I spotted ‘The Secret’ again.

Ironically, I had just gone through some major changes in my personal and professional life, and as usual, I was spinning around, completely overwhelmed, allowing every situation to do to me exactly as it would, without focusing on anything besides surviving.

I decided to hire the DVD, and my friend and I sat down to watch it.

We decided to jot down anything that inspired or touched something within, and now – about ten months later – everything that I jotted down, is still stuck to my cupboard for me to see every day as I get myself ready for each day.

The reality of it is that on many days, I do not even really read what I jotted down.

Sometimes, I read the lines that grab my attention, and I tell myself that I will make it my mantra’s for the day, but then get so caught up in life, that I forget before I have even sat down at my work station for my first cup of coffee.

If I am going to be honest, I wish with such a huge part of myself, that I could think positively, live positively, and be this calm, lovable ball of goodness, but I am sensitive, touchy, and very easily affected; it’s not very difficult at all to get me wound up, so ‘The Secret’ has become a ‘wishful thinking’ kind of lifestyle I find myself yearning for most of the time.

Here’s the truth, though: the concept behind ‘The Secret’ seems to work.

What you think about does generally seem to transpire.

A positive mindset and energy does generally attract more of the same.

The factor, I think, which makes it tough to stick to is when hitting a slump, not bothering to completely get out of it, in terms of mindset.

The mind really is a very powerful tool. The mind affects your thoughts, which affects your emotions.

If you can control your mind, you can control what you think, which will control what you feel, which in turn, controls your life.

In a nutshell, you can create the life you want, just like ‘The Secret’ promotes, but while it sounds very easy, it really is not. Controlling your mind is something that you have to practice, and deliberately focus on for months, if not years, before it becomes natural. I’m not even sure if it ever becomes natural, or if it just becomes easier to do.

I don’t know if it’s life, opinions, hardships, tragedies, or what it is, that makes us stop seeing the good in life, but somewhere along the way, we do, and along with it, we become cynical and negative, and that’s how we begin a thought cycle that before long, becomes habit.

After giving all of these factors some thought, I decided to purposefully change my way of thinking.

I know what I do not like about my life right now, and I know what I do want in life.

So, I decided that I am going to change my way of thinking by focusing on the positive things in my life and training my thoughts to stay on what’s good and on my dreams and goals.

I also decided that while I change my mindset, thoughts and my whole life at that, I might as well document it, which is when the idea popped into my head to blog the documentation, which I am very excited about.

So to be clear, here are some of the things that I want:

-          I want to move into my own place with my partner (no housemates) within the next three months

-          I want my partner, kids, family and friends to remain in good health (including unborn kids and newborn niece)

-          I want to have a good, healthy relationship with my kids, partner, friends and associates

-          I want my blog to inspire people, to complete writing a book and for it to be successful upon publication within the next three months

-          I want my business to take off within the next three months

-          I want to be financially secure and to live comfortably financially

-          I want to be happy and at peace

-          I want to love and be loved

-          I want to have everything that I want and need

 I am going to work on the way I think, and keep you all updated on how it all goes.

I cannot wait :D